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Attachment style quiz: what’s yours?
Sixteen statements about closeness and trust. Rate how true each one is for you, thinking about close relationships in general, not just one person.
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Note. For self-reflection only, not a clinical assessment or diagnosis. If you are struggling, please talk to a licensed mental health professional.
How it works
Three steps, 4 minutes.
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Rate 16 statements
From “not me at all” to “totally me”, thinking about close relationships in general.
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Two scores
Half the statements measure worry about closeness (anxiety), half measure discomfort with it (avoidance).
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Your style
Where the two scores meet gives one of four styles, shown on a map so you can see how strong each lean is.
All 4 results
The attachment styles
Read any of them now, or take the test first and see which one is yours.
FAQ
Questions people ask
- What are the four attachment styles?
- Secure, anxious (sometimes called preoccupied), avoidant (dismissive) and fearful-avoidant (sometimes called disorganised). They come from attachment theory, first described by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth.
- How long is this attachment style quiz?
- Sixteen statements, about four minutes. One statement per screen; you rate each from “not me at all” to “totally me”, and your result appears as soon as you answer the last one.
- How does this test score me?
- Each statement belongs to one of two scales, anxiety or avoidance. We average each scale from 1 to 5; above 3 counts as high. Low on both is secure, high anxiety alone is anxious, high avoidance alone is avoidant, and high on both is fearful-avoidant.
- Can your attachment style change?
- Yes. Research shows styles shift with experience, especially long, steady relationships and therapy. People often call this “earned security”.
- Is this a diagnosis?
- No. It’s a self-reflection quiz, not a clinical assessment. If relationships are causing you real distress, a licensed therapist can help.
- Are my answers stored?
- No. Your answers are scored in your browser and are never sent to us.
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