You are comfortable with closeness and comfortable on your own. You trust that people who care about you will stay, and you can say what you need without much fear.
This is the most common style. It doesn’t mean relationships are always easy, just that conflict feels survivable rather than threatening.
How it shows up
- Low worry about being left
- Easy to lean on others
- Can talk about feelings
Strengths
- +Steady in conflict
- +Trusting and trustworthy
- +Gives space without feeling rejected
Watch out for
- !May miss how anxious a partner feels
- !Can assume others are as calm as you
In relationships
Your calm helps partners with other styles feel safe. Keep naming that out loud.
For self-reflection only, not a clinical assessment or diagnosis. If you are struggling, please talk to a licensed mental health professional.